Happy New Year, everyone!
My all time favorite holiday is New Year’s. Not because you can get dressed up and clink glasses of champagne with your best friends…but because it’s a new beginning. As someone who personally loves Sunday nights and getting ready for a new work week, New Year’s is kind of like the ultimate Sunday night. You get to plan, organize, reevaluate and self reflect, which are things I love to do and find to be so important for mental health.This year, Colin and I spent New Year’s Eve in Indiana with my parents. As we drove from Indiana back to Texas (yes, we are crazy for driving two 18-hour drives, and yes, we drove so we could bring the dog with us!!), I had not one, but two 18 hour car rides to think about what I want to accomplish this year. As I scrolled through my favorite blogs and read so many New Year’s Resolution posts from my favorite influencers, I couldn’t help but feel overwhelmed about narrowing down a motto and a theme for this new year.
One of the most fun parts of the end of each year is looking to the front section of my Passion Planner (if you don’t have one, you need one…I’ve linked mine above) and reevaluating my goals and my progress towards those goals.
Last year, I had made several resolutions that I felt were really important and were going to work out really well. I wanted to cut toxic people out of my life, drink more water, and work more seriously on my blog. I wanted to achieve my goal weight, apply for grad school, and go on more weekend trips.
Did I apply for grad school? No.
Did I meet my goal weight loss? No.
Did I do as much traveling as I wanted? No.
As it turns out, a lot of my goals actually changed throughout the year. I found myself not wanting some of the things I thought I had wanted in January of 2017. One thing that I failed at last year was that I made goals and then felt like I was forced to stick with them, even if my opinions and goals were changing. So, in order to set myself up for success for this year, I sat down and acknowledged the fact that it’s OKAY that my goals have changed. It’s OKAY that I want to do things now that I didn’t want to before, and vice versa.
So, how can you make 2018 your best year ever?
1. Set goals. But don’t be afraid to change them if they don’t fit you anymore.
Make your list of goals. At the end of each month, reevaluate your list. Do you still want this? Did you accomplish it? Is it too far fetched, or not far fetched enough? Edit your goals once a month until they fit you and your vision.
2. Stop apologizing for what you think and feel, and be confident in what you want and believe.
If you’ve never seen Grey’s Anatomy, one of the best characters is a doctor named Miranda Bailey. She is strong, smart, and doesn’t ever apologize for saying and doing exactly what she needs and wants, especially when it is in her best interest (i.e. – patient care!!). She is confident and unapologetic for doing the right thing, regardless of who will take offense. So this year, stop apologizing for how you feel and the things that you like or want.
3. Practice self-love and self-reflection.
These two are definitely top on my list this year of things to do. Often times, I am so hard on myself when evaluating my progress towards my goals. I hate losing and I hate not being in first place, even when things aren’t a competition! It’s healthy to push yourself towards your goals, but at the end of the day, you have to remember that sometimes it’s not about how fast you go, but that you continue on your journey. With that being said – self reflection is paramount to having a successful year. My friend Haley recently got me a One Question A Day Five Year Journal that has a different question for every day of the year. My plan is to answer that question in the journal book (it’s a short, one to two line answer in the ), and I plan on elaborating on that in my own written journal.
4. Don’t quit on yourself.
For many people, myself included, sticking to a New Year’s resolution can be hard, especially when I make about 50 of them. I was just telling Colin that I want to get up and walk the dog every morning (we share this duty…mostly), and spend at least an hour each morning working on my blog. But once school starts again, I’m going to be exhausted and try to take the easy way out of it (I know myself pretty well). It’s easy to quit on yourself – it’s harder not to.
5. Do more of whatever it is that you like.
Do you like laying in bed watching an entire series? Do it more. Do you prefer weights over cardio? Do it more. Do you like drinking coffee and coffee shops and doing nothing other than scrolling through Instagram and plotting your world takeover? Do. It. More. The more you do what makes you happy, the happier and more inspired you will be.
What are some of your resolutions/goals for 2018?! I’d love to hear about them.